I Want To Talk About Women
In two parts, a rant and what I love about women (and what I want)
The Rant
I tried to be a good feminist. I never called myself one, I never thought of it as anything but respecting women, but I really had no idea how much I had internalized the ideology. The ideology that women are oppressed, that they are equal to men in every regard, that men have been and are oppressive to women, that we live in a toxic patriarchy. Without understanding I came to believe it was incumbent upon me to be a man who recognizes the evolutionary awakening that has been women’s rights in the liberal West, to embody that.
Mostly it just made me weak when I might have been strong, tentative when I should have been aggressive, and generally unattractive to women, less than I would have been had I stood more confidently in my innate masculinity.
But I am done with that now. I was told in so many ways, a world run by women would be a kinder, more gentle world. Now that I live in that technocratic world so much operated and managed by women (and feminized men), the opposite is true, it is a more oppressive world than I ever remember, living under a so-called patriarchy. The matriarchal “long-house” effect is as petty, irrational, unaccountable and mean-spirited as the “patriarchy” ever could be, in the same way that rule by BIPOC is proved a different kind of ruthlessness, if even less accountable. The matriarchy merely replaced the patriarchy, rather than reinvent society, usurping it. It is an ill fit, and the worst pathologies of the feminine are exemplified.
Under patriarchy, no woman is safe to live her life, or to love, or to mother children. Under patriarchy, every woman is a victim, past, present, and future. Under patriarchy, every woman's daughter is a victim, past, present, and future. Under patriarchy, every woman's son is her potential betrayer and also the inevitable rapist or exploiter of another woman. Andrea Dworkin
Women are not safer, with so many women in power in our institutions. Women are arguably less safe, that white men and men generally have been demonized as if we are only toxic and not capable or worthy of protecting women. Liberalism is said to empower women, but liberalism is increasingly excusing migrant and trans men preying upon women. In Germany, Finland, Canada, Britain and America, migrant men beating and raping and even killing women is said to be misinformation, a misunderstanding, migrant men have just not been told about our Western values.
Liberalism has convinced a great many white women that their empowerment and the replacement of the white race is copacetic. Abortion on demand, for any reason, at any stage of the pregnancy, even after birth, coincides in the liberal female mind with open borders for any military aged man from any hyper-patriarchal country in the world, to enter America effectively unchecked. It becomes racist and white supremacist, to say that amounts to a replacement of the citizenry, even as the worst effect of open borders are felt by poor brown and black Americans. The famous feminine empathy becomes infamous, excusing the inexcusable.
There’s nothing wrong with empathy per se. To feel and express it is a fundamental part of being human. Like reason and imagination, it might even serve as one of our distinguishing characteristics. At the very least, our capacity for it seems to dwarf all other creatures.
That said, empathy is not the same as love. The fact that it’s so often treated as a synonym is part of the disease that’s killing us. At best, it’s a shadow roughly shaped like love. In this case, the larger and more diffuse the shadow looms, the deadlier it becomes.
Feminized Gay becomes a rainbow cartel preying upon children, sexualizing, sterilizing and mutilating children with consent and acceptance by many a liberal woman.
The eternal war machine becomes a female empowerment project. Democrats come to believe it is the arc of justice to draft women into the military. Many of the CEO’s of weapon’s contractors are now women. Even as it is a fact we do not make the TNT necessary for those weapons, in America, or much of the hardware.
Women left and right, largely live in denial of the way microplastics, chemicals and pharmaceuticals have devastated fertility, making girls go through puberty as early as 8-9, making boys ghey.
Many Liberal women have refused the protection of God, or a Husband, in favor of Government. Increasingly government is used as a cudgel by women and effeminate men, in revenge for every slight real or imagined, perpetrated by straight white men going back to the beginning of time. I know some liberal, feminized white men who welcome institutional racism against white men, as if that is enlightened. White becomes conflated with evil, black and brown becomes conflated with all that is good. Women take the lead, particularly white and black women, but liberal women specifically, and perpetrate the conquering, decline and collapse of the West.
To spite straight white men, they have opened the proverbial gates to black, brown, woke and trans barbarians.
A few liberal white women are starting to notice, something is amiss. America is being conquered.
On a personal level, both of the liberal women I have loved in my adult life would sometimes treat me like I was the embodiment of every awful thing any man had ever done to them, or to any woman throughout history. At times it felt like, because they knew I would not or could not legally strike them, they could say the absolute worst, mean spirited things to me without consequence. There were times, a kind of shade would fall over their eyes and they would berate me with a furious intensity, almost as if I wasn’t even there. Increasingly, over time, I wasn’t. No man or woman should have to put up with that, no man or woman can take on so much, and deal with it in anything like a healthy way.
How did it come to all of this? How has it come to be, that many liberal women can not distinguish between a man and a woman - even a supreme court justice? Cannot, or will not.
What do liberal women have to say about all this?
Ruth Ben-Ghiat and Anne Applebaum hate the idea of a male autocrat,1 but absolutely love the idea of a one-party government they refer to as “democracy”, and the absolute and total tyranny that entails.
Kryptogal is not overtly liberal, but this is the liberal “empowered” female point of view. My question is, what safety and freedom is there in the future, for white women particularly, when white men are demonized, liberal white women are not procreating at anything like replacement numbers, and the nation is flooded by military aged brown males from mostly hyper “patriarchal” nations?
White women are going to save the world by electing Kamala? The grandiosity of that is breathtaking. I am a racist and a misogynist because I don’t think Kamala plus white women are going to save the world? Methinks no one is coming to save Shannon Watts from her delusion. People who play with fire start fires they can’t put out.
There is no shortage of this kind of shallow, short sighted triumphalism, among liberal female writers on substack, about woke, about Kamala. Trump Derangement Syndrome is the liberal female id projected, laying waste to the very foundations of their independence and empowerment, turning themselves into everything authoritarian they claim to hate.
As for liberal black women, I asked a male black co-worker in Minneapolis, a couple of years ago, what do you think of Black Lives Matter? He shivered, looked at me straight, says, “you don't ever give black women that kind of power.”
Kamala is not a slay Qween, she is a wrecking ball.
What I Love about Women (in the ideal, and what I want, as a straight, Western, American white male.)2
In the Cabala, Kether is the core, the divine spark, energy from the creator emanating out, passing through Chokmah, the divine masculine, which gives focus and force, but cannot give form until it passes through Binah, the divine feminine, which gives birth to all forms. From nothing becomes one, becoming two, making a third, Chesed, in the magical image as described by Dion Fortune, a mighty crowned and throned king.
A man and woman come together to make a child. That is the most fundamental of what it is to be human.
I am in awe of the ability of a woman to make a child, the pain a woman goes through to birth a child.
I have always been in awe of your mystery.
I love you in all of your myriad forms.
I love the way you embody Mother, how you would die to protect what you have created, what you love.
I love how you are the foundation of a home.
I love the way women come together to strengthen the community.
I love the way you embody grace.
I remember that first electrifying touch, as if whole worlds opened up.
I love how you anticipate me.
I love the way you get your way with me while making me feel stronger.
I love the way we come together, the way we make each other stronger.
I love the way you take care of me when I am in need.
You give me meaning and a sense of purpose.
I live to protect you and take care of you. I am in service.
You are the depth of the unconscious.
You are the rhythms of the water and the wind.
I ride the surge of your storm and embrace you on a sandy beach in the sun.
You are the bounty of the garden and the hunt, sustenance.
You are the mountains I cannot cross.
Words are not anything like enough.
There are universes in your eye and whole new worlds in your smile.
Your body is one with the earth.
I want to know you.
I want to honor you.
I want you to honor me.
Ruth Ben-Ghiat and Anne Applebaum hate the idea of an autocrat when that autocrat is conservative. But when that autocrat is liberal, as when my MN governor assumed dictatorial powers for two years during the covid psyop, or Biden instituted authoritarian jab mandates, these two women and many a liberal woman cheered.
Do you not also see that every single commercial has a white man being chastised and made a fool of? It’s so embarrassing. Especially when I was growing up as a child they were very masculine men around at the time. I can see how humiliating it is. They’ve been doing this for 40 years on the TV.
This gets in people’s subconscious. 40 years of this crap in our subconscious.
Think about it !!!!
I think the feminist project was in part promoted to split the sexes as a from of control by the ruling class. Also the term liberal has had its meaning changed. The truth is men and women are different and complementary we each have our strengths and weaknesses, we need each other and to focus on and celebrate our strengths. As a feminine woman that stayed home to raise my daughter, I was shocked at how badly I was treated by not only society but also by my own husband for not having a high paying career. I think our society treats everyone like shit, men and women alike, and we have to decide to love one another to heal our world. I have a lot more to say but can’t fit it in this little comment. I am thinking about coming back to Substack to write a few more essays. You and Kathleen Deveney really inspire me. 🤗 Love this essay.